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Late night walks through New York city... →

parkerhurley:

It feels good to take my shoes off after such a long day. I can see the lights of Times Square from my 43rd floor window. My fingers are regaining their warmth. My face is tight from the cold, that spot that starts to throb right in the center of your face.

I breathe easy.

I caught your scent somewhere around 40th street. I thought to follow but kept walking straight. The lights pull me forward until they illuminate my figure as if I were on stage. “The world is a stage” And I’m one of the players. We all are. The scent that pulled me in one direction will guide me to another. And another. And I’ll let all of them wash over me. Until she moves on to touch someone new, as well all share the same space.

I feel light.

I feel warm.

I feel blessed.

Blessed by something greater than me, that connects all of us. It doesn’t have a name, it doesn’t have to. It exists because I acknowledge it exists, and that is enough. It comes to us all in different ways. A child smiling at you on the subway. That moment when you’re thinking of someone and they reach out to you. Or catching the scent of someone familiar.

Energy never disappears. It shifts and moves through us, around us, between us, into us, filling us to our capacity and then moving forward with momentum to fill another. My energy is building.

I can feel it.

I can see it.

It’s guiding me to a new place. Somewhere powerful yet calm, like the ocean. Constant. Shifting. Leaving me treasure, half buried in the receding tide. Some to pick up, examine, and then discard. Others that I will carry in my worn pockets until they served their purpose. But then I see it. A golden shell, almost lost in the sand. My eyes pass over it but are drawn back by it’s brilliance. I pick it up and pour the excess sand from it’s center where someone else used to live. I feel the warmth left inside. A gift for me. Love. Faith. The means to create your own destiny. Shared by infinite souls before me. I’ll hold onto it for now, just for a little bit. It’s energy will manifest inside. I will become the vessel. A vessel for others to sip from and seek out their dreams.


Nutrients And Where To Find ‘Em

thespartanwarrior:

This post is meant as a quick reference guide to explain what nutrients are and the main sources of them. It isnt an in depth discussion about nutrients or any aspects of them, simply a quick reference guide, handy for newbies or for anyone wanting to ensure that they have a balanced diet.

The post is divided into sections. The first covers the macronutrients plus water and fibre. From there the post moves to vitamins, minerals, phytonutrients to alcohols and artificial food components which are briefly mentioned due to the frequency they appear in modern foods. This is followed up by a links section which also doubles as the references for this post.

After a nutrient is listed and basically described, at least 5 examples of whole foods high in that particular nutrient are listed. What you will notice is the foods which come up again and again. Lean meats, dairy, grains, fruits, vegetables, etc. These foods should be forming the basis and majority of your diet. This post is also handy if you wanted to choose a food to enable you to up your intake of a certain nutrient such as a particular mineral.

Read On, Brave Warrior!

scinerds:

“Just a Theory”: 7 Misused Science Words
Feel like you need to make serious distinctions within the language of science? Maybe brush up on a few key concepts of the subject? Perhaps you feel an article is using word tactics to get people to believe in something false. Scientific American (originally on LiveScience) has a great article highlighting 7 misused science words that are sure to put things into perspective for the public:

1. Hypothesis
The general public so widely misuses the words hypothesis, theory and law that scientists should stop using these terms, writes physicist Rhett Allain of Southeastern Louisiana University, in a blog post on Wired Science.
“I don’t think at this point it’s worth saving those words,” Allain told LiveScience.
A hypothesis is a proposed explanation for something that can actually be tested. But “if you just ask anyone what a hypothesis is, they just immediately say ‘educated guess,’” aid.
2. Just a theory?
Climate-change deniers and creationists have deployed the word “theory” to cast doubt on climate change and evolution.
“It’s as though it weren’t true because it’s just a theory,” Allain said.
That’s despite the fact that an overwhelming amount of evidence supports both human-caused climate change and Darwin’s theory of evolution.
Part of the problem is that the word “theory” means something very different in lay language than it does in science: A scientific theory is an explanation of some aspect of the natural world that has been substantiated through repeated experiments or testing. But to the average Jane or Joe, a theory is just an idea that lives in someone’s head, rather than an explanation rooted in experiment and testing.
3. Model
However, theory isn’t the only science phrase that causes trouble. Even Allain’s preferred term to replace hypothesis, theory and law — “model” — has its troubles. The word not only refers to toy cars and runway walkers, but also means different things in different scientific fields. A climate model is very different from a mathematical model, for instance.
“Scientists in different fields use these terms differently from each other,” John Hawks, an anthropologist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, wrote in an email to LiveScience. “I don’t think that ‘model’ improves matters. It has an appearance of solidity in physics right now mainly because of the Standard Model. By contrast, in genetics and evolution, ‘models’ are used very differently.” (The Standard Model is the dominant theory governing particle physics.)
4. Skeptic
When people don’t accept human-caused climate change, the media often describes those individuals as “climate skeptics.” But that may give them too much credit, Michael Mann, a climate scientist at Pennsylvania State University, wrote in an email.
“Simply denying mainstream science based on flimsy, invalid and too-often agenda-driven critiques of science is not skepticism at all. It is contrarianism … or denial,” Mann told LiveScience.
Instead, true skeptics are open to scientific evidence and are willing to evenly assess it.
“All scientists should be skeptics. True skepticism is, as [Carl] Sagan described it, the ‘self-correcting machinery’ of science,” Mann said.
5. Nature vs. nurture
The phrase “nature versus nurture” also gives scientists a headache, because it radically simplifies a very complicated process, said Dan Kruger, an evolutionary biologist at the University of Michigan.
“This is something that modern evolutionists cringe at,” Kruger told LiveScience.
Genes may influence human beings, but so, too, do epigenetic changes. These modifications alter which genes get turned on, and are both heritable and easily influenced by the environment. The environment that shapes human behavior can be anything from the chemicals a fetus is exposed to in the womb to the block a person grew up on to the type of food they ate as a child, Kruger said. All these factors interact in a messy, unpredictable way.
6. Significant
Another word that sets scientists’ teeth on edge is “significant.”
“That’s a huge weasel word. Does it mean statistically significant, or does it mean important?” said Michael O’Brien, the dean of the College of Arts and Science at the University of Missouri.
In statistics, something is significant if a difference is unlikely to be due to random chance. But that may not translate into a meaningful difference, in, say, headache symptoms or IQ.
7. Natural
“Natural” is another bugaboo for scientists. The term has become synonymous with being virtuous, healthy or good. But not everything artificial is unhealthy, and not everything that’s natural is good for you.
“Uranium is natural, and if you inject enough of it, you’re going to die,” Kruger said.
Natural’s sibling “organic” also has a problematic meaning, he said. While organic simply means “carbon-based” to scientists, the term is now used to describe pesticide-free peaches and high-end cotton sheets, as well.

Check out the full article written by Tia Ghose and LiveScience
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scinerds:

“Just a Theory”: 7 Misused Science Words

Feel like you need to make serious distinctions within the language of science? Maybe brush up on a few key concepts of the subject? Perhaps you feel an article is using word tactics to get people to believe in something false. Scientific American (originally on LiveScience) has a great article highlighting 7 misused science words that are sure to put things into perspective for the public:

1. Hypothesis

The general public so widely misuses the words hypothesis, theory and law that scientists should stop using these terms, writes physicist Rhett Allain of Southeastern Louisiana University, in a blog post on Wired Science.

“I don’t think at this point it’s worth saving those words,” Allain told LiveScience.

A hypothesis is a proposed explanation for something that can actually be tested. But “if you just ask anyone what a hypothesis is, they just immediately say ‘educated guess,’” aid.

2. Just a theory?

Climate-change deniers and creationists have deployed the word “theory” to cast doubt on climate change and evolution.

“It’s as though it weren’t true because it’s just a theory,” Allain said.

That’s despite the fact that an overwhelming amount of evidence supports both human-caused climate change and Darwin’s theory of evolution.

Part of the problem is that the word “theory” means something very different in lay language than it does in science: A scientific theory is an explanation of some aspect of the natural world that has been substantiated through repeated experiments or testing. But to the average Jane or Joe, a theory is just an idea that lives in someone’s head, rather than an explanation rooted in experiment and testing.

3. Model

However, theory isn’t the only science phrase that causes trouble. Even Allain’s preferred term to replace hypothesis, theory and law — “model” — has its troubles. The word not only refers to toy cars and runway walkers, but also means different things in different scientific fields. A climate model is very different from a mathematical model, for instance.

“Scientists in different fields use these terms differently from each other,” John Hawks, an anthropologist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, wrote in an email to LiveScience. “I don’t think that ‘model’ improves matters. It has an appearance of solidity in physics right now mainly because of the Standard Model. By contrast, in genetics and evolution, ‘models’ are used very differently.” (The Standard Model is the dominant theory governing particle physics.)

4. Skeptic

When people don’t accept human-caused climate change, the media often describes those individuals as “climate skeptics.” But that may give them too much credit, Michael Mann, a climate scientist at Pennsylvania State University, wrote in an email.

“Simply denying mainstream science based on flimsy, invalid and too-often agenda-driven critiques of science is not skepticism at all. It is contrarianism … or denial,” Mann told LiveScience.

Instead, true skeptics are open to scientific evidence and are willing to evenly assess it.

“All scientists should be skeptics. True skepticism is, as [Carl] Sagan described it, the ‘self-correcting machinery’ of science,” Mann said.

5. Nature vs. nurture

The phrase “nature versus nurture” also gives scientists a headache, because it radically simplifies a very complicated process, said Dan Kruger, an evolutionary biologist at the University of Michigan.

“This is something that modern evolutionists cringe at,” Kruger told LiveScience.

Genes may influence human beings, but so, too, do epigenetic changes. These modifications alter which genes get turned on, and are both heritable and easily influenced by the environment. The environment that shapes human behavior can be anything from the chemicals a fetus is exposed to in the womb to the block a person grew up on to the type of food they ate as a child, Kruger said. All these factors interact in a messy, unpredictable way.

6. Significant

Another word that sets scientists’ teeth on edge is “significant.”

“That’s a huge weasel word. Does it mean statistically significant, or does it mean important?” said Michael O’Brien, the dean of the College of Arts and Science at the University of Missouri.

In statistics, something is significant if a difference is unlikely to be due to random chance. But that may not translate into a meaningful difference, in, say, headache symptoms or IQ.

7. Natural

“Natural” is another bugaboo for scientists. The term has become synonymous with being virtuous, healthy or good. But not everything artificial is unhealthy, and not everything that’s natural is good for you.

“Uranium is natural, and if you inject enough of it, you’re going to die,” Kruger said.

Natural’s sibling “organic” also has a problematic meaning, he said. While organic simply means “carbon-based” to scientists, the term is now used to describe pesticide-free peaches and high-end cotton sheets, as well.

Check out the full article written by Tia Ghose and LiveScience


zombieproduce:

neon-casket:

melifluus:

Haley Morris-Cafiero made a series called Wait Watchers, in which she sets up a camera with a self-timer in public and photographs not only herself, but the public’s reactions to her, as a visible fat woman daring to exist in a public space. (More on Wait Watchers here)
I looked at her website and saw this one first, but this whole project is extremely poignant for me. 
Also, fuck cops.

Fuck cops forever

this series makes me so angry

Can I just ask, from an objective standpoint, and without trying to start shit: how did she take these photos? Did she have a tripod set up and aimed at herself? Was the camera hidden? Or did she have someone taking photos of her? Because I would be more likely to look at her if I noticed she had a camera set up pointed at her; my look would be one of puzzlement at what the hell she’s actually doing, but I feel that it would be misconstrued as a gaze of disgust aimed directly at her body because of the bias inherent in some of these shots. And, given that she specified the self-timer, she must’ve had a tripod set up and have had the self-timer taking photos every 0.3 of a second to catch some of the facial expressions she did.
Reading through the comments on the actual article, a lot of people are making comments about the validity of this project for the same reasons. Part of capturing peoples’ honest responses is to be as organic and unobtrusive as possible: the concept of demand characteristics (in psychology) is that the audience fulfils the researcher’s wishes for the experiment, either consciously or unconsciously. This seems to me to be what the case is for the majority of these shots.
Similarly, given that a fair few of the photos in the hustle bustle have been identified as NYC, one person said “allow me to speak on behalf of all new yorkers… if you are standing in the middle of the f*cking sidewalk during rush hour, it does not matter if you look like a super model, you will get mean mugged.. you might even get pushed out of the way depending on the time of day. and you will get an especially dirty look if you are holding a map or taking pictures during rush hour.” Also, my take on the cop photo above is that it was likely a prank played because they could see a camera set up and recording her; in an effort to be light-hearted, they’re now vilified for an action they made in good humour. I might be reading it entirely wrong, but you cannot say they’re being assholes either, because we have no knowledge of what their actual intentions were.
Surely, context is the most important factor when considering the impact of these photos. It’s great that someone’s acting on what they perceive to be an injustice in society but, if you’re going to explore it, do so in a way that produce valid results that actually measure what you say they’re measuring. I’ll likely get bombarded by the social justice crew now, but I feel like I need to say something here. It irks me no end when people construe their results as meaning only one thing, when there are multiple interpretations screaming out for attention and yet everyone ignores their obvious relevance. View Larger

zombieproduce:

neon-casket:

melifluus:

Haley Morris-Cafiero made a series called Wait Watchers, in which she sets up a camera with a self-timer in public and photographs not only herself, but the public’s reactions to her, as a visible fat woman daring to exist in a public space. (More on Wait Watchers here)

I looked at her website and saw this one first, but this whole project is extremely poignant for me. 

Also, fuck cops.

Fuck cops forever

this series makes me so angry

Can I just ask, from an objective standpoint, and without trying to start shit: how did she take these photos? Did she have a tripod set up and aimed at herself? Was the camera hidden? Or did she have someone taking photos of her? Because I would be more likely to look at her if I noticed she had a camera set up pointed at her; my look would be one of puzzlement at what the hell she’s actually doing, but I feel that it would be misconstrued as a gaze of disgust aimed directly at her body because of the bias inherent in some of these shots. And, given that she specified the self-timer, she must’ve had a tripod set up and have had the self-timer taking photos every 0.3 of a second to catch some of the facial expressions she did.

Reading through the comments on the actual article, a lot of people are making comments about the validity of this project for the same reasons. Part of capturing peoples’ honest responses is to be as organic and unobtrusive as possible: the concept of demand characteristics (in psychology) is that the audience fulfils the researcher’s wishes for the experiment, either consciously or unconsciously. This seems to me to be what the case is for the majority of these shots.

Similarly, given that a fair few of the photos in the hustle bustle have been identified as NYC, one person said “allow me to speak on behalf of all new yorkers… if you are standing in the middle of the f*cking sidewalk during rush hour, it does not matter if you look like a super model, you will get mean mugged.. you might even get pushed out of the way depending on the time of day. and you will get an especially dirty look if you are holding a map or taking pictures during rush hour.” Also, my take on the cop photo above is that it was likely a prank played because they could see a camera set up and recording her; in an effort to be light-hearted, they’re now vilified for an action they made in good humour. I might be reading it entirely wrong, but you cannot say they’re being assholes either, because we have no knowledge of what their actual intentions were.

Surely, context is the most important factor when considering the impact of these photos. It’s great that someone’s acting on what they perceive to be an injustice in society but, if you’re going to explore it, do so in a way that produce valid results that actually measure what you say they’re measuring. I’ll likely get bombarded by the social justice crew now, but I feel like I need to say something here. It irks me no end when people construe their results as meaning only one thing, when there are multiple interpretations screaming out for attention and yet everyone ignores their obvious relevance.


The funny thing about the gay competition is that, because men (especially of the gay variety) are so visually stimulated, the only piece on the chess board that matters is having that traditional lean body. If straight men are lacking in some area, they usually make up for it by becoming rich or powerful, things that some women (see: Real Housewives of Orange County) find just as attractive as a washboard stomach dusted with natural body hair. But for gay men, only body will do. If a gay guy is a little short, his solution is to go to the gym. Got a shitty job? Go to the gym. Busted in the face? No biggie! Head to the gym and no one will look above your neck. Totally shy and doesn’t socialize well? Gym, baby, gym! A good body is the only currency in this game.

Brian Moylan

I’m not really a big fan of this mode of thinking, but it really is that bad. Even if you’re a bear, at the end of the day you’re trying to fit a mold to make yourself more sexually accessible, a mold that may be entirely different from who you really are.

The reason I’m posting this is because lately, when I see someone who’s good looking, I find myself being torn between wanting them and being envious of them, and then it goes back to, “Well I don’t look anywhere near as good as he does, so he’s out my league. And if Im not in his league, nobody I’m interested in is going to find me attractive.” and then I feel depressed for awhile before the cycle repeats itself.  It makes it downright impossible to have a good self image or a healthy sex life.

I don’t know, what are your guys’ opinions on this? Am I just being mopey or do you struggle with this yourselves? 

(via welltheregoesyoursociallife)

I don’t think you’re just being mopey at all.  Gay guys have it rough, and (as a side note) I hate that people are always really quick to compare the situation to that of women, but they’re two completely different subjects and I’m rarely ever comfortable comparing the suffering (for lack of a better word) of different groups. But getting back to the point, it’s really fucked up that there’s a completely different set of standards when it comes to men in the straight community and the gay community.  As much as I hate to say it and as much as I hate to make generalizations the gay community tends to be much, much more vain.  So redeeming qualities that might be taken into consideration when dating like sense of humor or personality in general effectively mean less to most gay men.  I’ve known guys that have dated other guys who are dull as a post, or flat out crazy for long periods of time because 1) they’re hot, 2)they get to have sex with this perceived as hot guy, and 3) it’s a point of pride in that they get to show off that they have this hot guy that they’re dating/fucking.  

I find this contrasts with a lot of the girls I know/see on facebook, in class etc.  who will completely look past what are perceived as physical flaws (a flabby stomach, a less-than-perfect face) for both good reasons and bad reasons.  By “good” reasons I mean because they genuinely like hanging out with that person because of their personality or the way they treat them and by “bad” reasons I mean because that guy has money or something else that they want (but mostly money).  Does this happen in the gay community?  Absolutely, but not nearly as often.  I personally used to know this older guy (not really that much older like late 20’s early 30’s) who was a junior professor at my university who was financially STRUGGLING, as in he was about to lose his house, and yet he completely supported his younger boyfriend who also happened to be a student.  Letting him live with him rent-free, taking him out places, buying him food and clothes and even giving him money to go hang out with his friends.  Why?  Because he spent three hours a day at the ODU gym.  

Idk man, I don’t even remember the point I was trying to make, but it’s just fucked up.  It’s a messed up cycle because guys end up dating each other because they look good and they don’t necessarily have anything in common or anything actually holding them together besides physical desire, so it’s just meaningless relationship after meaningless relationship. And then guys wonder why they can’t find love, yet they refuse to lower their physical standards or be open to different body-types.  I’ve always tried to be really open-minded when dating to assure myself that I’m not as shallow as some, but you also have to consider that, at the end of the day if there’s NO physical desire there, there’s virtually no way a relationship can prosper.   Personally my body image is all fucked up, my goal is to look like something I know I could never look like, even if I spent every day in the gym and idk i just kind of cringe every time I have to see myself shirtless.  

(via raypulaski)


I have 4 asks requesting that I elaborate on the post I made yesterday about non-Australian’s reactions to Australian culture in Please Like Me.

haydenrodgers:

So I guess I better. Keep in mind in order to do this with any sanity I am going to be generalising and talking mainly about the “Australian spirit” which is a collection of values that are recognised as Australian.

The first thing I’ll address is the awkwardness. While, yes, they’re all certainly more awkward than your average person, Australia celebrates the goof-ball. The term we get taught for it is larkinism. Basically in a social circle the person who is best at making a fool out of themselves for laughs is often the most liked. Obviously that’s quite different to, say, an American culture where seeming trendy and socially acceptable is very highly valued - of course it has value in Australia but we also naturally rebel against that idea.
Furthermore, nothing is off limits for a joke. We make fun of everyone and everything but no one more than ourselves. This creates an environment where getting really offended over something is almost culturally inappropriate and greeted with a “just get over it”. Sort of like, “everyone gets made fun of and its just your turn”. It’s not in our culture to be aware of what’s politically correct or pay much heed to it because it interferes with humour (i.e. Geoffrey and basically any comment he makes on race).

This in turn effects the comedy itself. I’ve noticed some people think the humour is idiotic or that the characters themselves are idiots - particularly Josh’s dad. Well, those moments of earnest stupidity are like a foundation of the Australian sense of humour. It’s quite dry like British humour.

Probably the biggest difference between Australia and most cultures is a thing called tall-poppy syndrome. When poppies grow in a field, some will grow taller and stick out above the rest. If you apply that as a metaphor for society, some people excel above others. The premise of tall poppy syndrome is that as a culture we value humility and the underdog so much that we cut down or attack people who excel and in turn sell our own achievements short and cultivate an attitude of not caring too much about things. To again compare to an American culture, who basically invented the modern trend of what is essentially the idolisation of celebrities and branding supremacy, it’s a stark difference.
In the show the characters often very casually deal with their emotions and problems - see Josh’s reaction to his mother’s attempted suicide or Josh and Claire’s break-up - and I feel this is being interpreted as an extension of the awkwardness rather than quite an Australian approach to life. Additionally the style of writing is a much more natural style to that of most of your standard American shows that dramatise everything.

A note I’d also like to make is that people are rumbling about Mae being a racist stereotype. I’ll admit when I first heard her broken English I was a bit worried. However, there are plenty of Asian people in Australia and plenty of them speak in broken English. Mae is most likely based off of a real woman who really dated Josh’s father. As it is Mae isn’t really defined by her race as a character and even if she was, again, there are plenty of Asians in Australia who identify strongly with Asian culture. As a country we are very multi-cultural and there are strong cultural hubs from many nations where traditions and culture is preserved. It’s a mistake to call a character racist because they aren’t acting like a white person despite their race, as if they have to overcome that. Mae is a character native to Thailand who has moved to Australia for a few years; her broken English is realistic.

So that just about sums up the major points I think. I’d just like to re-clarify that I’m talking in very broad terms here and there will be many Australians who don’t identify with aspects of our culture.



beautilation:




At Comic Con today, I went as Black Cat. This is a shitty picture and there will be better ones of my whole costume coming up but I just want to say something. 
Black Cat’s costume has a fair amount of cleavage (conservative compared to many other female comic characters but a good amount as far as what I’ve ever shown). I guess I was not surprised to have a couple men ask to pose with me and then do some doofy “WHOA LOOK AT THOSE KNOCKERS” poses. I just make a really ugly face when I see they’re doing it. One guy with the social graces of a lemur said to me “I was this close to wearing that same outfit. My breasts are large and supple and I think it would have been nice.” Nope. Stop talking.
But aside from guys being doofy and awkward (but clearly not foul-intentioned), I did have my first truly skeezy experience at Comic Con today. 
And my first truly empowering moment as well.
This group of men from some kind of Stan Lee fan club blah blah internet video channel blah blah asked to interview with them on camera about Comic Con. I said well okay, sure. Camera is rolling. The “host” is a middle aged, rotund dude. It’s an all-male crew and lots of people (mostly guys) were beginning to crowd around. The following is the interview as burned in my mind. Keep in mind that I expected this to be about Comic Con in general.
Him: I’m here with…
Me: Mandy, aka Felicia Hardy aka Black Cat
Him: ..And she is HOT. Do you think I’m hot enough to pull that off?
Me: Uh, I’m not sure, I’ve never seen you in drag.
Him: I’ve got a great ass. Go on, spank me.
Me: (look at his large ass, popped up mere inches away from me then look into the camera like are you kidding me . No thanks. I may hurt you, I’m a lot stronger than I look.
Him: Aw come on!
Me: No, seriously. Stop.
Him: Damn, alright! Well let me ask you an important question then…what is your cup size?
Me: (big talk show smile) That is actually none of your fucking business.
Him: Oh! I think that means to say she’s a C. 
Me: I actually have no breasts at all, what you see is just all of the fat from my midsection pulled up to my chest and carefully held in place with this corset. It’s really uncomfortable, I don’t know why I do it.
Him: (to the male crowd) Aw, come on what do you guys think? C cup? 
—a few males start to shout out cup sizes as I stand there looking at this guy like this has to be a fucking joke, then look at the crowd and see that no amount of witty banter or fiestiness will stop making this whole thing fucking dumb. It was clearly a ploy to single out attractive cosplaying women to get them to talk sexual innuendos and flirt with this asshole and let him talk down to them simply because they were in costume and were attractive. Whether I’m in a skintight catsuit or not, I’m a fucking professional in everything I do and I don’t need to play nice for this idiot.
Me: This is not an interview, this is degrading. I’m done. (I walk away)
Him: (clearly dumbfounded and surprised) ..Come on, it’s all in good fun!
Me: Being degraded is fun? That was unprofessional and I hope that isn’t your day job because you can’t interview for shit, my man.
And the entire crew and the crowd were SILENT. NOTHING. SHOCK, HONEY. It felt like I was in a heated fog, full of rage and pride and I sashayed away feeling like the most badass motherfucker in the whole damn room. A slow build of applause would have been appropriate, but from the looks on people’s faces, they were just completely not expecting me to do what I just did. Because cons set attractive women cosplaying vixens to be open to crude male commentary and lecherous ogling, like our presence comes with subtitles that say “I represent your fantasy thus you may treat me like a fantasy and not a human in a costume”. And maybe that will always be how the majority of people see us. But that does not mean we have to put up with shit that crosses the line, it does not mean we owe them a fantasy, it does not mean we dress up to have guys drooling over us and letting us know that we turn them on. It is not all about your dicks, gentlemen. So I encourage cosplaying women everywhere to be blunt and vocal with their rights, their personal boundaries, and their comfort level at conventions. I actually encourage girls to be brashly shameless about these things, to not be afraid to speak up if you feel uncomfortable and to let the person doing it know that they are crossing the line. Don’t keep quiet because you’re scared of what they might say or think- because if you say nothing they will continue to see what they’re doing as OK. 


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At Comic Con today, I went as Black Cat. This is a shitty picture and there will be better ones of my whole costume coming up but I just want to say something. 

Black Cat’s costume has a fair amount of cleavage (conservative compared to many other female comic characters but a good amount as far as what I’ve ever shown). I guess I was not surprised to have a couple men ask to pose with me and then do some doofy “WHOA LOOK AT THOSE KNOCKERS” poses. I just make a really ugly face when I see they’re doing it. One guy with the social graces of a lemur said to me “I was this close to wearing that same outfit. My breasts are large and supple and I think it would have been nice.” Nope. Stop talking.

But aside from guys being doofy and awkward (but clearly not foul-intentioned), I did have my first truly skeezy experience at Comic Con today. 

And my first truly empowering moment as well.

This group of men from some kind of Stan Lee fan club blah blah internet video channel blah blah asked to interview with them on camera about Comic Con. I said well okay, sure. Camera is rolling. The “host” is a middle aged, rotund dude. It’s an all-male crew and lots of people (mostly guys) were beginning to crowd around. The following is the interview as burned in my mind. Keep in mind that I expected this to be about Comic Con in general.

  • Him: I’m here with…
  • Me: Mandy, aka Felicia Hardy aka Black Cat
  • Him: ..And she is HOT. Do you think I’m hot enough to pull that off?
  • Me: Uh, I’m not sure, I’ve never seen you in drag.
  • Him: I’ve got a great ass. Go on, spank me.
  • Me: (look at his large ass, popped up mere inches away from me then look into the camera like are you kidding me . No thanks. I may hurt you, I’m a lot stronger than I look.
  • Him: Aw come on!
  • Me: No, seriously. Stop.
  • Him: Damn, alright! Well let me ask you an important question then…what is your cup size?
  • Me: (big talk show smile) That is actually none of your fucking business.
  • Him: Oh! I think that means to say she’s a C. 
  • Me: I actually have no breasts at all, what you see is just all of the fat from my midsection pulled up to my chest and carefully held in place with this corset. It’s really uncomfortable, I don’t know why I do it.
  • Him: (to the male crowd) Aw, come on what do you guys think? C cup? 
  • —a few males start to shout out cup sizes as I stand there looking at this guy like this has to be a fucking joke, then look at the crowd and see that no amount of witty banter or fiestiness will stop making this whole thing fucking dumb. It was clearly a ploy to single out attractive cosplaying women to get them to talk sexual innuendos and flirt with this asshole and let him talk down to them simply because they were in costume and were attractive. Whether I’m in a skintight catsuit or not, I’m a fucking professional in everything I do and I don’t need to play nice for this idiot.
  • Me: This is not an interview, this is degrading. I’m done. (I walk away)
  • Him: (clearly dumbfounded and surprised) ..Come on, it’s all in good fun!
  • Me: Being degraded is fun? That was unprofessional and I hope that isn’t your day job because you can’t interview for shit, my man.

And the entire crew and the crowd were SILENT. NOTHING. SHOCK, HONEY. It felt like I was in a heated fog, full of rage and pride and I sashayed away feeling like the most badass motherfucker in the whole damn room. A slow build of applause would have been appropriate, but from the looks on people’s faces, they were just completely not expecting me to do what I just did. Because cons set attractive women cosplaying vixens to be open to crude male commentary and lecherous ogling, like our presence comes with subtitles that say “I represent your fantasy thus you may treat me like a fantasy and not a human in a costume”. And maybe that will always be how the majority of people see us. But that does not mean we have to put up with shit that crosses the line, it does not mean we owe them a fantasy, it does not mean we dress up to have guys drooling over us and letting us know that we turn them on. It is not all about your dicks, gentlemen. So I encourage cosplaying women everywhere to be blunt and vocal with their rights, their personal boundaries, and their comfort level at conventions. I actually encourage girls to be brashly shameless about these things, to not be afraid to speak up if you feel uncomfortable and to let the person doing it know that they are crossing the line. Don’t keep quiet because you’re scared of what they might say or think- because if you say nothing they will continue to see what they’re doing as OK. 


blackblackgold:

THE EMPEROR’S VINTAGE CLOTHES: HOW GOTH & EBM RECYCLED THEMSELVES
“Noise is dying. Punk’s been dead. The only rock’n’roll left is in your head.” – Sewn Leather, “No Names”
 “Meet the new goths. Same as the old goths.” – The Who, “Won’t Go Goth Again”  
Like a rather bedraggled and dusty phoenix, goth has rebirthed itself in a way that echoes its 30+ year history as well as explores new ground. Sometime in the mid-late ’00s, post-punk sounds from groups such as S.C.U.M and Kasms brought a darker edge to indie music that hadn’t been so visible in years. To younger ears with few accessible options for this kind of vibe, it was fascinating; to older ears longing for new takes on beloved ideas, it was a godsend. As the likes of Cold Cave, Light Asylum, and Zola Jesus helped redefine classic goth tropes, minimal wave enthusiasts WIERD and Veronica Vasicka were using their labels, parties, and love of classic sounds to attract new electronic producers with a taste for gloom as well as weekly crowds of cross-genre weirdos and trendsetters alike. Slowly an audience was built, partly from scratch—bringing in those drawn to the style and dark glamor of it all—and partly from those bored with the stale, established goth scene and looking for something familiar yet refreshing.
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#a fascinating article concerning an industry where everything, and I mean everything, is latched upon and bled dry 
I don’t know enough about these genres to accurately comment, but this article is brilliant and well worth a read… especially as social commentary on the growing movement of anti-society ~soft grunge~ in the mainstream. View Larger

blackblackgold:

THE EMPEROR’S VINTAGE CLOTHES: HOW GOTH & EBM RECYCLED THEMSELVES

“Noise is dying. Punk’s been dead. The only rock’n’roll left is in your head.” – Sewn Leather, “No Names”

“Meet the new goths. Same as the old goths.” – The Who, “Won’t Go Goth Again”  

Like a rather bedraggled and dusty phoenix, goth has rebirthed itself in a way that echoes its 30+ year history as well as explores new ground. Sometime in the mid-late ’00s, post-punk sounds from groups such as S.C.U.M and Kasms brought a darker edge to indie music that hadn’t been so visible in years. To younger ears with few accessible options for this kind of vibe, it was fascinating; to older ears longing for new takes on beloved ideas, it was a godsend. As the likes of Cold Cave, Light Asylum, and Zola Jesus helped redefine classic goth tropes, minimal wave enthusiasts WIERD and Veronica Vasicka were using their labels, parties, and love of classic sounds to attract new electronic producers with a taste for gloom as well as weekly crowds of cross-genre weirdos and trendsetters alike. Slowly an audience was built, partly from scratch—bringing in those drawn to the style and dark glamor of it all—and partly from those bored with the stale, established goth scene and looking for something familiar yet refreshing.

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#a fascinating article concerning an industry where everything, and I mean everything, is latched upon and bled dry

I don’t know enough about these genres to accurately comment, but this article is brilliant and well worth a read… especially as social commentary on the growing movement of anti-society ~soft grunge~ in the mainstream.


Things I want to tell people, that I wish people had told me: →

sehnsuchttraum:

  • You don’t have to achieve great things by the time you’re 25.
  • You have intrinsic value above and beyond your perceived utility to other people and society at large.
  • You don’t have to have sex, or have sex in any way that you find uncomfortable or unpleasant, to keep anyone’s love or good opinion of you. They didn’t love you or think very well of you to start with if they demand it.
  • You don’t have to stay with someone who isn’t meeting your emotional or sexual needs because they need you, or you’ve been with them for awhile, or you need to be in a relationship. You need you. Your time is your own and it is finite.
  • It’s ok to work at a job you enjoy that doesn’t make you miserable even if it’s not a career and it won’t “lead to anything.”
  • Your life is not a narrative. It is not leading to anything, there is no overarching thesis, it does not have themes beyond the usual shared cultural experiences of your time and place. This is ok. It does not mean that your life is without purpose or meaning.
  • It’s ok not to like or get along with the vast majority of people you encounter, so long as you afford them the same respect, courtesy and dignity that they afford you.
  • Expensive is not always better.
  • Failure is temporary if you’re still alive.
  • People are both much better and much worse than you’d suspect, but usually not all at once.
  • Stop thinking of your future self as a different person and it will be easier to prevent money and health problems.
  • Let people help you, lean on them when you need to, and be available to help, but don’t swing too far in either direction. Try to carry your half of the life basket as evenly as you can.
  • Set boundaries, and do not be afraid to kick people out of your life who disregard them. You will not end up alone and unloved. People who love you will be ok with your boundaries.
  • Your power does not come from money or beauty, but from seeing life steadily and wholly, from a curious and thoughtful mind, and from your ability to say no when you want to, and yes when you want to, and I don’t know when you don’t know.
  • There will be bad times, maybe lots of bad times, but not only bad times.
  • Love will not heal the wounds in your soul, but love can give you the impetus to begin the work of healing yourself.
  • Life might be a long series of starting over, and that’s alright.
  • You’re really cool, you’re really beautiful, you’re really special. Really. Not to everyone, but to a lot of someones sometimes.